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Small Things Often
Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!
Episodes
How to Hit the Reset Button
A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship.
How to Hit the Reset Button
A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship.
04:15
10 Mar 22
Do You Have Time for a Date?
Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule.
Do You Have Time for a Date?
Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule.
04:16
8 Mar 22
Building Your Relationship with Humor
Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often.
Building Your Relationship with Humor
Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often.
04:31
3 Mar 22
How to be Lovers and Friends
Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship.
How to be Lovers and Friends
Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship.
04:12
1 Mar 22
Why Does My Partner Hate Me?
Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern.
Why Does My Partner Hate Me?
Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern.
05:09
24 Feb 22
Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes
What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision in the first place.
Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes
What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision in the first place.
04:29
22 Feb 22
Four Things that Make Up Successful Relationships
Wonder what happy couples have in common? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the four things that make up the most successful relationships that can lead you and your partner to even greater happiness.
Four Things that Make Up Successful Relationships
Wonder what happy couples have in common? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the four things that make up the most successful relationships that can lead you and your partner to even greater happiness.
04:42
17 Feb 22
Are You Sensually Communicating?
When you put words to your desire for your partner, you can experience a satisfying relationship in and out of the bedroom. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can start sensually communicating with your partner.
Are You Sensually Communicating?
When you put words to your desire for your partner, you can experience a satisfying relationship in and out of the bedroom. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can start sensually communicating with your partner.
03:22
15 Feb 22
Navigating Valentine’s Day
Do you have certain expectations for Valentine’s Day? Does your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer tips on how to make the most of this “holiday of love” — without stress or hurt feelings.
Navigating Valentine’s Day
Do you have certain expectations for Valentine’s Day? Does your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer tips on how to make the most of this “holiday of love” — without stress or hurt feelings.
03:51
10 Feb 22
Why Passion and Parenting Can Co-Exist
Even though it might take more of an effort, you can still have a passionate relationship with your partner while being a parent. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to prioritize intimacy and keep your connection strong.
Why Passion and Parenting Can Co-Exist
Even though it might take more of an effort, you can still have a passionate relationship with your partner while being a parent. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to prioritize intimacy and keep your connection strong.
03:47
8 Feb 22
What to Say to Have a Deep Connection with Your Partner
How’s the friendship quotient in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have a conversation with your partner that will deepen your connection and strengthen your friendship.
What to Say to Have a Deep Connection with Your Partner
How’s the friendship quotient in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have a conversation with your partner that will deepen your connection and strengthen your friendship.
04:26
3 Feb 22
How to Get in the Mood for Love-Making
Has passion faded from your relationship? Just not feeling it anymore? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being intentional about love-making can bring desire and passion back for you and your partner.
How to Get in the Mood for Love-Making
Has passion faded from your relationship? Just not feeling it anymore? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being intentional about love-making can bring desire and passion back for you and your partner.
04:06
1 Feb 22
How to Curb Your Expectations
You don’t need to set your expectations super high or way down low to have a healthy relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why all you need is a “good enough” relationship.
How to Curb Your Expectations
You don’t need to set your expectations super high or way down low to have a healthy relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why all you need is a “good enough” relationship.
03:45
27 Jan 22
Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
It might feel counterintuitive, but stop trying to fix your partner’s feelings. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why you should empathize with your partner instead.
Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
It might feel counterintuitive, but stop trying to fix your partner’s feelings. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why you should empathize with your partner instead.
03:44
25 Jan 22
A Busy Couple’s Guide to Sharing Fondness and Admiration
Has your life become so hectic, that you’ve put your relationship on the back burner — and feel like you’re drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to get back on track by sharing fondness and admiration — no matter how busy your lives have become.
A Busy Couple’s Guide to Sharing Fondness and Admiration
Has your life become so hectic, that you’ve put your relationship on the back burner — and feel like you’re drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to get back on track by sharing fondness and admiration — no matter how busy your lives have become.
03:58
20 Jan 22
How to Turn Your Relationship Goals Into Habits
Do you feel like setting goals for your relationship is too daunting? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to turn those goals into healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day.
How to Turn Your Relationship Goals Into Habits
Do you feel like setting goals for your relationship is too daunting? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to turn those goals into healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day.
02:58
18 Jan 22
How to Reverse Relationship Bankruptcy
Feeling disconnected or ignored by your partner? If so, your Emotional Bank Account might be in bankruptcy. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to reverse that depleted account, and get your relationship back on track.
How to Reverse Relationship Bankruptcy
Feeling disconnected or ignored by your partner? If so, your Emotional Bank Account might be in bankruptcy. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to reverse that depleted account, and get your relationship back on track.
03:41
13 Jan 22
Ask for What You Want
Asking for what you want may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out how to ask, and why it is so important for a successful relationship.
Ask for What You Want
Asking for what you want may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out how to ask, and why it is so important for a successful relationship.
03:34
11 Jan 22
Why You Should Surround Yourself with Healthy Couples
Why do couples who are friends with other healthy couples have better relationships? Because they learn from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how your friends can be one of the greatest resources of information for having a happy relationship with your partner.
Why You Should Surround Yourself with Healthy Couples
Why do couples who are friends with other healthy couples have better relationships? Because they learn from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how your friends can be one of the greatest resources of information for having a happy relationship with your partner.
03:24
6 Jan 22
How to Give Your Relationship a Fresh Start
Does your relationship feel stale? Is it missing some excitement? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the 4 steps that you can take to give your relationship a fresh start.
How to Give Your Relationship a Fresh Start
Does your relationship feel stale? Is it missing some excitement? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the 4 steps that you can take to give your relationship a fresh start.
02:51
4 Jan 22
The Importance of Taking Breaks
Taking a break from an argument when you’re overwhelmed with emotion is one of the most crucial relationship skills. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and when to take a break in order to get back on track with your partner.
The Importance of Taking Breaks
Taking a break from an argument when you’re overwhelmed with emotion is one of the most crucial relationship skills. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and when to take a break in order to get back on track with your partner.
03:34
30 Dec 21
How to Battle Loneliness in a Relationship
How do you fight feelings of being alone in a relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share the antidote for loneliness — and how it will help you and your partner get back on track to connecting emotionally.
How to Battle Loneliness in a Relationship
How do you fight feelings of being alone in a relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share the antidote for loneliness — and how it will help you and your partner get back on track to connecting emotionally.
03:27
28 Dec 21
Who are we? Defining the Culture of your Couplehood
Do you know who you are as a couple? Have you ever thought about the values, beliefs and attitudes that define your couplehood? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create shared meaning by discovering the unique culture of your relationship.
Who are we? Defining the Culture of your Couplehood
Do you know who you are as a couple? Have you ever thought about the values, beliefs and attitudes that define your couplehood? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create shared meaning by discovering the unique culture of your relationship.
03:31
23 Dec 21
Creating Shared Meaning Through Rituals of Connection
What rituals of connection do you and your partner have together? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn some rituals that will help you create shared meaning, stay connected — and thrive.
Creating Shared Meaning Through Rituals of Connection
What rituals of connection do you and your partner have together? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn some rituals that will help you create shared meaning, stay connected — and thrive.
04:39
21 Dec 21
Gifts From the Heart
Save your money and give your partner a gift from the heart. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to bring them joy with simple gestures that’ll show how much you care.
Gifts From the Heart
Save your money and give your partner a gift from the heart. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to bring them joy with simple gestures that’ll show how much you care.
03:53
16 Dec 21
A Couples Guide to Handling Conflict
Conflicts can get extra complicated during the holiday season. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover some useful tools to handle conflicts with your partner and keep your holidays happy.
A Couples Guide to Handling Conflict
Conflicts can get extra complicated during the holiday season. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover some useful tools to handle conflicts with your partner and keep your holidays happy.
03:40
14 Dec 21
How to Celebrate Differences During the Holidays
Celebrating the holidays can be tricky if you and your partner have different religious beliefs or ethnic cultures. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to talk through your differences and make a unique blend of traditions.
How to Celebrate Differences During the Holidays
Celebrating the holidays can be tricky if you and your partner have different religious beliefs or ethnic cultures. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to talk through your differences and make a unique blend of traditions.
02:38
9 Dec 21
Ways to Make a Better Bid for Connection
‘Tis the season to take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, explore the ways to make better bids.
Ways to Make a Better Bid for Connection
‘Tis the season to take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, explore the ways to make better bids.
03:06
7 Dec 21
How to Stay Connected Through the Holidays
Your relationship might be taking a back seat during the holidays. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected as a couple through this hectic time of year.
How to Stay Connected Through the Holidays
Your relationship might be taking a back seat during the holidays. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected as a couple through this hectic time of year.
03:54
2 Dec 21
What Are Three Things You Love About Your Partner?
Take the time to reflect on all the things you love about your partner, and then let them know in writing. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas of what kinds of things you can share with them — so they’ll know just how much they’re loved and appreciated.
What Are Three Things You Love About Your Partner?
Take the time to reflect on all the things you love about your partner, and then let them know in writing. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas of what kinds of things you can share with them — so they’ll know just how much they’re loved and appreciated.
03:26
30 Nov 21
Show Your Gratitude in a Thank You Note
Keeping a gratitude journal is great — but sharing those thoughts with your partner in a thank you note is even better. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to start a daily ritual that can transform your relationship.
Show Your Gratitude in a Thank You Note
Keeping a gratitude journal is great — but sharing those thoughts with your partner in a thank you note is even better. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to start a daily ritual that can transform your relationship.
03:20
25 Nov 21
Making Your Relationship a Priority
Let your partner know your relationship is a priority by showing them with your actions, instead of just telling them with words. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas how to do this — and build loyalty and trust.
Making Your Relationship a Priority
Let your partner know your relationship is a priority by showing them with your actions, instead of just telling them with words. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas how to do this — and build loyalty and trust.
03:23
23 Nov 21
Conversations that Matter Most in Relationships
Every strong relationship is a result of a never-ending conversation between partners — but which ones matter the most? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out which conversations you need to have for a lifetime of love.
Conversations that Matter Most in Relationships
Every strong relationship is a result of a never-ending conversation between partners — but which ones matter the most? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out which conversations you need to have for a lifetime of love.
04:14
18 Nov 21
3 Ways to Keep a Positive Perspective
Seeing your partner through rose-colored glasses could benefit your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to maintain a positive perspective.
3 Ways to Keep a Positive Perspective
Seeing your partner through rose-colored glasses could benefit your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to maintain a positive perspective.
03:23
16 Nov 21
Simple Ways to Show Fondness and Admiration
Do you and your partner share fondness and admiration? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why it should be a priority and how you can express it to each other.
Simple Ways to Show Fondness and Admiration
Do you and your partner share fondness and admiration? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why it should be a priority and how you can express it to each other.
02:45
11 Nov 21
The Power of Being Polite
It can be easy to forget to say “please” and “thank you” to your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the power of being polite and how it can affect your relationship.
The Power of Being Polite
It can be easy to forget to say “please” and “thank you” to your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the power of being polite and how it can affect your relationship.
02:44
9 Nov 21
The #1 Couple
Where do you and your partner shine? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover what strengths make you a #1 couple, then give yourselves a pat on the back — and celebrate your relationship.
The #1 Couple
Where do you and your partner shine? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover what strengths make you a #1 couple, then give yourselves a pat on the back — and celebrate your relationship.
03:27
4 Nov 21
Strengthen Your Relationship With the Magic Ratio
There’s a magic ratio that could be the key to your relationship’s success. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you should be tracking what kind of interactions you’re having with your partner and how you can make those interactions more positive.
Strengthen Your Relationship With the Magic Ratio
There’s a magic ratio that could be the key to your relationship’s success. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you should be tracking what kind of interactions you’re having with your partner and how you can make those interactions more positive.
03:13
2 Nov 21
How to Inspire Your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy
If you feel you and your partner need professional help, the way you approach them about couples therapy can make all the difference in how they respond. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have this important conversation.
How to Inspire Your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy
If you feel you and your partner need professional help, the way you approach them about couples therapy can make all the difference in how they respond. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have this important conversation.
03:53
28 Oct 21
Questions to Ask Your Date
Are your dates filled with friendly but superficial conversation? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to ask open-ended questions on a date for a deeper connection and more meaningful conversation.
Questions to Ask Your Date
Are your dates filled with friendly but superficial conversation? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to ask open-ended questions on a date for a deeper connection and more meaningful conversation.
04:12
26 Oct 21
5 Tips to Help Your Relationship Thrive
No matter what’s going on in your relationship lately, there’s always room for improvement. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you five tips you can put in practice today to help your relationship thrive.
5 Tips to Help Your Relationship Thrive
No matter what’s going on in your relationship lately, there’s always room for improvement. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you five tips you can put in practice today to help your relationship thrive.
03:53
21 Oct 21
How to Find a Therapist
If you’re struggling more than usual lately, you might want to talk to a therapist. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to find one that will fit your needs, and help you on your journey to healing.
How to Find a Therapist
If you’re struggling more than usual lately, you might want to talk to a therapist. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to find one that will fit your needs, and help you on your journey to healing.
04:03
19 Oct 21
An Easier Way to Talk About Finances
Talking about finances with your partner can be tough, but there are ways to make it a little easier. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have productive conversations as you both work towards creating a shared financial vision.
An Easier Way to Talk About Finances
Talking about finances with your partner can be tough, but there are ways to make it a little easier. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have productive conversations as you both work towards creating a shared financial vision.
03:29
14 Oct 21
Are You Being Attentive?
You’ll always have distractions in your life, but there’s a way to manage them so you can be present in your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to be intentionally attentive.
Are You Being Attentive?
You’ll always have distractions in your life, but there’s a way to manage them so you can be present in your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to be intentionally attentive.
02:44
12 Oct 21
How to Fall in Love With Your Partner Again
You could fall in love with your partner again by just asking them some questions. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how getting curious about your partner can help you reconnect.
How to Fall in Love With Your Partner Again
You could fall in love with your partner again by just asking them some questions. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how getting curious about your partner can help you reconnect.
03:23
7 Oct 21
The Relationship Myths to Ignore
Have you heard that love is enough? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re debunking some relationship myths that are not only false, but potentially destructive.
The Relationship Myths to Ignore
Have you heard that love is enough? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re debunking some relationship myths that are not only false, but potentially destructive.
03:30
5 Oct 21
How to Build Emotional Intelligence
Your ability to navigate feelings could have a big impact on your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to build emotional intelligence with both your partner and anyone you interact with.
How to Build Emotional Intelligence
Your ability to navigate feelings could have a big impact on your relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to build emotional intelligence with both your partner and anyone you interact with.
03:02
30 Sep 21
Emotion Coaching is Not Just for Kids
When your partner experiences difficult emotions, be their Emotion Coach to help them through it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how this kind of coaching used for kids — also works for adults.
Emotion Coaching is Not Just for Kids
When your partner experiences difficult emotions, be their Emotion Coach to help them through it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how this kind of coaching used for kids — also works for adults.
03:28
28 Sep 21
Ways to Turn Towards Each Other as New Parents or Caregivers
Have you recently become either a parent or a caregiver? If so, life will inevitably change. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to stay connected to your partner through the “new normal.”
Ways to Turn Towards Each Other as New Parents or Caregivers
Have you recently become either a parent or a caregiver? If so, life will inevitably change. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to stay connected to your partner through the “new normal.”
04:05
23 Sep 21
The Little Things You Do
Are you making time to intentionally connect with your partner? On the Season 4 premiere of Small Things Often, learn the small ways that you can prioritize your relationship.
The Little Things You Do
Are you making time to intentionally connect with your partner? On the Season 4 premiere of Small Things Often, learn the small ways that you can prioritize your relationship.
02:43
21 Sep 21
8 Conversations That Matter Most
Some conversations matter more than others in relationships. On the season 3 finale of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 8 conversations to have with your partner for a lifetime of love.
8 Conversations That Matter Most
Some conversations matter more than others in relationships. On the season 3 finale of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 8 conversations to have with your partner for a lifetime of love.
04:38
21 Jul 21
How to Create a Shared Financial Vision
Do you and your partner share a financial vision for your future? Have you been transparent with each other on your current financial health? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why conversations about finances can be difficult — and learn tips to make talking about money easier.
How to Create a Shared Financial Vision
Do you and your partner share a financial vision for your future? Have you been transparent with each other on your current financial health? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why conversations about finances can be difficult — and learn tips to make talking about money easier.
04:04
19 Jul 21
Why “Sorry” Isn’t Enough
Just saying “I’m sorry” to your partner when you’ve done something wrong, isn’t always enough. On this episode of Small Things Often, you’ll learn the 3 steps of a mindful apology so you can get your relationship back on track.
Why “Sorry” Isn’t Enough
Just saying “I’m sorry” to your partner when you’ve done something wrong, isn’t always enough. On this episode of Small Things Often, you’ll learn the 3 steps of a mindful apology so you can get your relationship back on track.
03:22
14 Jul 21
Are You Assuming Positive Intent?
Do you sometimes get offended or defensive with your partner based only on your own interpretation of their actions? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how assuming positive intent can create more trust and communication between you and your partner — and change your relationship for the better.
Are You Assuming Positive Intent?
Do you sometimes get offended or defensive with your partner based only on your own interpretation of their actions? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how assuming positive intent can create more trust and communication between you and your partner — and change your relationship for the better.
03:37
12 Jul 21
Which Box is Your Relationship in?
What box does relationship fall in? Nice, Neutral or Nasty? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what each of those boxes mean, and how your answer may impact your relationship.
Which Box is Your Relationship in?
What box does relationship fall in? Nice, Neutral or Nasty? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what each of those boxes mean, and how your answer may impact your relationship.
03:12
7 Jul 21
Lookout for Sliding Door Moments
You and your partner could be making inconsequential decisions that affect your relationship negatively or positively. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can look out for these “sliding door” moments so you can respond in a way that’ll set your relationship on a positive trajectory.
Lookout for Sliding Door Moments
You and your partner could be making inconsequential decisions that affect your relationship negatively or positively. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can look out for these “sliding door” moments so you can respond in a way that’ll set your relationship on a positive trajectory.
02:58
5 Jul 21
Bringing Heartfulness Into Your Relationship
Do you know what heartfulness is? Find out on this episode of Small Things Often and learn how it can bring stability and happiness to your relationship.
Bringing Heartfulness Into Your Relationship
Do you know what heartfulness is? Find out on this episode of Small Things Often and learn how it can bring stability and happiness to your relationship.
03:27
30 Jun 21
Two Practices to Help Protect Your Relationship in Times of Conflict
The way you deal with conflict in your relationship can either cause a disconnect with your partner — or bring you closer together. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn two practices that can help you more successfully resolve conflicts when they arise.
Two Practices to Help Protect Your Relationship in Times of Conflict
The way you deal with conflict in your relationship can either cause a disconnect with your partner — or bring you closer together. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn two practices that can help you more successfully resolve conflicts when they arise.
03:44
28 Jun 21
How to Start and End your Day Together
The way you start and end each day with your partner can have a huge impact on your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to “bookend” your day with love and support — to strengthen your connection and build intimacy.
How to Start and End your Day Together
The way you start and end each day with your partner can have a huge impact on your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to “bookend” your day with love and support — to strengthen your connection and build intimacy.
03:22
23 Jun 21
How You Can Stop the World Together
Drown out the noise and truly listen to your partner. When you stop the world together, your relationship can grow even stronger. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can stop your world in big and small ways.
How You Can Stop the World Together
Drown out the noise and truly listen to your partner. When you stop the world together, your relationship can grow even stronger. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can stop your world in big and small ways.
03:07
21 Jun 21
How to Support Your Partner When You’re Hurting Too
When life gets overwhelming, it can be hard to support your partner when you’re hurting too. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can help each other when you’re both struggling with your own feelings.
How to Support Your Partner When You’re Hurting Too
When life gets overwhelming, it can be hard to support your partner when you’re hurting too. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can help each other when you’re both struggling with your own feelings.
03:27
16 Jun 21
How to stay connected during life’s transitions
Are you going through a life transition? Like a new job, an illness in the family, or financial crisis? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to weather the storm by intentionally maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your partner.
How to stay connected during life’s transitions
Are you going through a life transition? Like a new job, an illness in the family, or financial crisis? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to weather the storm by intentionally maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your partner.
03:38
14 Jun 21
Finding Ways to Accept Influence
Accepting your partner’s influence doesn’t mean saying “yes” to everything. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s all about acknowledging that your partner has a valid perspective and how you can find ways to accept their influence.
Finding Ways to Accept Influence
Accepting your partner’s influence doesn’t mean saying “yes” to everything. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s all about acknowledging that your partner has a valid perspective and how you can find ways to accept their influence.
02:39
9 Jun 21
Do you Look at your partner through Rose-colored glasses
How do you view your partner? The answer to this question can be the difference between a successful relationship — or one at risk. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why your perspective can change your relationship for the better.
Do you Look at your partner through Rose-colored glasses
How do you view your partner? The answer to this question can be the difference between a successful relationship — or one at risk. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why your perspective can change your relationship for the better.
03:36
7 Jun 21
Ways to Invest in Your Relationship
When it comes to relationships, the grass is greener where you water it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the ways that you can invest in your relationship so you can recognize and appreciate what you have.
Ways to Invest in Your Relationship
When it comes to relationships, the grass is greener where you water it. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain the ways that you can invest in your relationship so you can recognize and appreciate what you have.
02:37
2 Jun 21
6 Ideas for the Perfect Playdate
Has your sense of playfulness gotten lost in the busyness of daily life? If so, it’s time to make a playdate with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover six ideas to reconnect and have fun!
6 Ideas for the Perfect Playdate
Has your sense of playfulness gotten lost in the busyness of daily life? If so, it’s time to make a playdate with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover six ideas to reconnect and have fun!
03:06
31 May 21
Rituals to Reconnect in Your Relationship
How much time have you actually spent with your partner lately? Have you been starting to take each other for granted? Or drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create daily rituals to turn towards each other daily, reconnect, and get your relationship back on track.
Rituals to Reconnect in Your Relationship
How much time have you actually spent with your partner lately? Have you been starting to take each other for granted? Or drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create daily rituals to turn towards each other daily, reconnect, and get your relationship back on track.
03:33
26 May 21
Ways to Stop Taking Each Other for Granted
Are you and your partner taking each other for granted? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain 3 daily rituals to keep romance, affection, appreciation, and communication strong in your relationship.
Ways to Stop Taking Each Other for Granted
Are you and your partner taking each other for granted? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain 3 daily rituals to keep romance, affection, appreciation, and communication strong in your relationship.
02:59
24 May 21
Mindful Listening Tips During Conflict
Are you really listening to your partner during conflicts? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can listen mindfully so that you can move through whatever conflicts you face in your relationship.
Mindful Listening Tips During Conflict
Are you really listening to your partner during conflicts? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can listen mindfully so that you can move through whatever conflicts you face in your relationship.
03:23
19 May 21
How to Become a Really Great Listener
How are your listening skills? It’s more important than you may realize. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn tips to become an “active” listener — and watch how your relationship improves and strengthens.
How to Become a Really Great Listener
How are your listening skills? It’s more important than you may realize. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn tips to become an “active” listener — and watch how your relationship improves and strengthens.
02:59
17 May 21
How to Invest in Your Emotional Bank Account
What’s the state of your Emotional Bank Account? Have no idea? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why your Emotional Bank Account is so important to the health of your relationship — and discover tips to get it back on track.
How to Invest in Your Emotional Bank Account
What’s the state of your Emotional Bank Account? Have no idea? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why your Emotional Bank Account is so important to the health of your relationship — and discover tips to get it back on track.
03:45
12 May 21
Why Core Needs Aren't Negotiable
Are you and your partner fulfilling each other’s core needs? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why core needs aren’t negotiable and a crucial part of making your relationship thrive.
Why Core Needs Aren't Negotiable
Are you and your partner fulfilling each other’s core needs? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why core needs aren’t negotiable and a crucial part of making your relationship thrive.
02:51
10 May 21
A Guide to Complaining
Do you know how to effectively complain? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a 3-part formula to help you complain without criticizing.
A Guide to Complaining
Do you know how to effectively complain? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a 3-part formula to help you complain without criticizing.
02:27
5 May 21
How To Turn Towards Instead of Away
Every day is filled with small moments when you could turn towards your partner or away from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and why these small moments can make or break a relationship.
How To Turn Towards Instead of Away
Every day is filled with small moments when you could turn towards your partner or away from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and why these small moments can make or break a relationship.
03:26
3 May 21
Ways to Make Your Love Last
Are you committed to making your love last? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can maintain and strengthen your emotional bonds so you can stay in love with your partner.
Ways to Make Your Love Last
Are you committed to making your love last? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can maintain and strengthen your emotional bonds so you can stay in love with your partner.
03:06
28 Apr 21
How to Get Your Relationship Back on Track
Feel as if you and your partner are drifting apart? Almost feel like strangers? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share an exercise that can get your relationship back on track!
How to Get Your Relationship Back on Track
Feel as if you and your partner are drifting apart? Almost feel like strangers? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share an exercise that can get your relationship back on track!
03:24
26 Apr 21
How to Support Your Partner’s Life Dream
Does your partner have a life dream, but you don't know how to support helping them make it a reality? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer some ideas of what you can do to help their dream come true.
How to Support Your Partner’s Life Dream
Does your partner have a life dream, but you don't know how to support helping them make it a reality? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer some ideas of what you can do to help their dream come true.
02:57
21 Apr 21
Do You and Your Partner Dream Together?
Have you shared your dreams for the future with your partner lately —or ever? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover why sharing individual and shared dreams is so important — and how to start a conversation about it!
Do You and Your Partner Dream Together?
Have you shared your dreams for the future with your partner lately —or ever? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover why sharing individual and shared dreams is so important — and how to start a conversation about it!
03:19
19 Apr 21
How to Build Trust In Your Relationship
Are you looking for ways to build trust in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can build bridges of trust by doing things for your partner and doing things together.
How to Build Trust In Your Relationship
Are you looking for ways to build trust in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can build bridges of trust by doing things for your partner and doing things together.
02:54
14 Apr 21
Here’s What Trust and Commitment Look Like in a Relationship
How can you show that you’re a committed partner worth trusting? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain what trust and commitment look like in a relationship.
Here’s What Trust and Commitment Look Like in a Relationship
How can you show that you’re a committed partner worth trusting? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain what trust and commitment look like in a relationship.
02:18
12 Apr 21
What to Do if You Don’t Trust Each Other
Is your relationship lacking trust? Was it broken or never there to begin with? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the steps to take and the questions to ask so you can begin to trust your partner.
What to Do if You Don’t Trust Each Other
Is your relationship lacking trust? Was it broken or never there to begin with? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the steps to take and the questions to ask so you can begin to trust your partner.
03:11
7 Apr 21
Learn to Create Shared Meaning in Your Relationship
Feel something is missing in your relationship? It may be “shared meaning.” In this episode of Small Things Often, discover why and how creating shared meaning can turn things around — and help your relationship grow deeper and stronger than ever before.
Learn to Create Shared Meaning in Your Relationship
Feel something is missing in your relationship? It may be “shared meaning.” In this episode of Small Things Often, discover why and how creating shared meaning can turn things around — and help your relationship grow deeper and stronger than ever before.
03:29
5 Apr 21
How to Strengthen Your Relationship with State of the Union Meetings
Are you holding in feelings of anger or frustration with your partner that are impacting your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often we explore the State of the Union Meeting — a powerful tool to repair conflict and strengthen your relationship. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
How to Strengthen Your Relationship with State of the Union Meetings
Are you holding in feelings of anger or frustration with your partner that are impacting your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often we explore the State of the Union Meeting — a powerful tool to repair conflict and strengthen your relationship. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
04:20
31 Mar 21
How to Use a Repair Remote Control
If you’re struggling with repair attempts, visualize a tv remote control! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can rewind, fast forward, and pause during conflict so you can get your relationship back on the right track. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
How to Use a Repair Remote Control
If you’re struggling with repair attempts, visualize a tv remote control! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can rewind, fast forward, and pause during conflict so you can get your relationship back on the right track. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
03:33
29 Mar 21
What to Do When You Disagree
It doesn’t have to be the end of the road if you and your partner disagree about important issues. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a “sandwich” approach for talking through difficult topics so you can both be seen, heard, and accepted. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
What to Do When You Disagree
It doesn’t have to be the end of the road if you and your partner disagree about important issues. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain a “sandwich” approach for talking through difficult topics so you can both be seen, heard, and accepted. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
03:29
24 Mar 21
How to Process an Argument
You and your partner just had an argument… now what? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 3 steps to process the argument so you can repair it and move forward together. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
How to Process an Argument
You and your partner just had an argument… now what? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 3 steps to process the argument so you can repair it and move forward together. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
03:49
22 Mar 21
Rules for a Stress-Reducing Conversation
Feeling stressed at the end of your day, and not knowing how to deal with it? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn rules for having a stress-reducing conversation with your partner, to help you both connect, unwind and relax. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Rules for a Stress-Reducing Conversation
Feeling stressed at the end of your day, and not knowing how to deal with it? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn rules for having a stress-reducing conversation with your partner, to help you both connect, unwind and relax. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
04:07
17 Mar 21
How to Rescue your Relationship from Stress
How’s your stress level lately? Whether you realize it or not, the way you cope with it could be affecting your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you tips on how to manage your stress in order to get back on track with your partner. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
How to Rescue your Relationship from Stress
How’s your stress level lately? Whether you realize it or not, the way you cope with it could be affecting your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you tips on how to manage your stress in order to get back on track with your partner. Visit gottman.com/afterafight for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
04:01
15 Mar 21
Managing Physiological Flooding
Have you ever been in the middle of an argument with your partner, and suddenly you feel as if your mind and body have been caught in a riptide? That’s physiological flooding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to manage these overwhelming feelings — and get back on track. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Managing Physiological Flooding
Have you ever been in the middle of an argument with your partner, and suddenly you feel as if your mind and body have been caught in a riptide? That’s physiological flooding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to manage these overwhelming feelings — and get back on track. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
04:18
10 Mar 21
How to Practice Self-Soothing
Do you know how to self-soothe when you find yourself in the middle of a heated discussion with your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re guiding you through a meditative technique so you can find peace and work through conflicts as a team. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/afterafight for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
How to Practice Self-Soothing
Do you know how to self-soothe when you find yourself in the middle of a heated discussion with your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re guiding you through a meditative technique so you can find peace and work through conflicts as a team. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/afterafight for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
03:12
8 Mar 21
Tips on How to Cope with Overwhelm During Stressful Times
Whether you’re dealing with the pandemic — or another crisis — overwhelming emotions can impact both you and your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you some simple tips to deal with difficult times in your life to help you cope and give you a bit of peace. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
Tips on How to Cope with Overwhelm During Stressful Times
Whether you’re dealing with the pandemic — or another crisis — overwhelming emotions can impact both you and your relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you some simple tips to deal with difficult times in your life to help you cope and give you a bit of peace. Visit gottman.com/LOL for a new collection of exercises, conversations, and videos led by Doctors John and Julie Gottman.
04:09
3 Mar 21
Bonus Episode: Dr. Julie Gottman’s Guided Relaxation Exercise
Feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? Or need a break from an argument with your partner? Self-soothe by listening to Dr. Julie Gottman’s guided relaxation exercise to calm your mind so you can find inner peace and repair your relationships.
Bonus Episode: Dr. Julie Gottman’s Guided Relaxation Exercise
Feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? Or need a break from an argument with your partner? Self-soothe by listening to Dr. Julie Gottman’s guided relaxation exercise to calm your mind so you can find inner peace and repair your relationships.
14:05
2 Mar 21
Do You Know When Your Partner is Feeling Flooded?
Can you recognize your partner’s signs of flooding? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s important to know when they’re overwhelmed and how you can reverse course. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Do You Know When Your Partner is Feeling Flooded?
Can you recognize your partner’s signs of flooding? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why it’s important to know when they’re overwhelmed and how you can reverse course. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
03:08
1 Mar 21
Questions Happy Couples Ask Each Other
Feeling a bit disconnected from your partner lately? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer meaningful questions to get you both back on track — and deepen and transform your relationship. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Questions Happy Couples Ask Each Other
Feeling a bit disconnected from your partner lately? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer meaningful questions to get you both back on track — and deepen and transform your relationship. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
04:00
24 Feb 21
Ways to Fall in Love with Your Partner All Over Again
Feeling a disconnect in your relationship? Has the sizzle now fizzled? On today’s episode of Small Things Often, discover some simple but powerful tips to revive your connection — and fall in love all over again. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
Ways to Fall in Love with Your Partner All Over Again
Feeling a disconnect in your relationship? Has the sizzle now fizzled? On today’s episode of Small Things Often, discover some simple but powerful tips to revive your connection — and fall in love all over again. Don’t forget to visit gottman.com/LOL for all-new research-based exercises, conversations, and videos.
04:08
22 Feb 21
How You Can Pursue Your Partner at Every Stage
Never stop dating your partner! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to pursue each other at every stage of your relationship and keep your connection strong.
How You Can Pursue Your Partner at Every Stage
Never stop dating your partner! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you how to pursue each other at every stage of your relationship and keep your connection strong.
02:18
17 Feb 21
Learn the 2 Biases That May Be Hurting Your Relationship
Are you biased when it comes to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how 2 biases could be hurting your relationship and talk you through effective antidotes.
Learn the 2 Biases That May Be Hurting Your Relationship
Are you biased when it comes to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how 2 biases could be hurting your relationship and talk you through effective antidotes.
03:45
15 Feb 21
Are You Surrounded by Healthy Couples?
You are the company you keep, right? So surround yourself with couples that are in healthy relationships! We’ll explain how healthy couples could influence your relationship on this episode of Small Things Often.
Are You Surrounded by Healthy Couples?
You are the company you keep, right? So surround yourself with couples that are in healthy relationships! We’ll explain how healthy couples could influence your relationship on this episode of Small Things Often.
03:09
10 Feb 21
Simple Tips to Reconnect and Nurture Your Relationship
Keeping your relationship on track, especially during stressful times, can be difficult. On today’s episode of “Small Things Often,” check out our simple but impactful tips to let your partner know that they’re valued, loved and respected.
Simple Tips to Reconnect and Nurture Your Relationship
Keeping your relationship on track, especially during stressful times, can be difficult. On today’s episode of “Small Things Often,” check out our simple but impactful tips to let your partner know that they’re valued, loved and respected.
03:48
8 Feb 21
Why It’s Important to Be “In Like” With Your Partner
You might be “in love” with your partner, but are you “in like” with them, too? On this episode of “Small Things Often” find out why this is so important — and discover ways to let your partner know that you “like” them.
Why It’s Important to Be “In Like” With Your Partner
You might be “in love” with your partner, but are you “in like” with them, too? On this episode of “Small Things Often” find out why this is so important — and discover ways to let your partner know that you “like” them.
03:39
3 Feb 21
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